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Joss Whedon’s Ex-Wife Warns He’s A Hypocrite ‘Preaching Feminist Ideals’

Screenwriter and director Joss Whedon may not be the famed feminist best friend many idea he used to be, in line with his ex-wife Kai Cole.

In a scathing essay printed on Sunday for The Wrap, Cole, who not too long ago divorced Whedon after 16 years of marriage, wrote that Whedon is a “hypocrite preaching feminist ideals.” Cole ― a manufacturer and actress herself ― published that Whedon had each bodily and emotional affairs with different girls during their marriage, and blamed his movements at the pressures of the patriarchy. 

According to Cole, Whedon had his first affair all the way through their first yr of marriage whilst he used to be at the set of “Buffy The Vampire Slayer.” 

“Fifteen years later, when he was done with our marriage and finally ready to tell the truth, he wrote me, ‘When I was running ‘Buffy,’ I was surrounded by beautiful, needy, aggressive young women. It felt like I had a disease, like something from a Greek myth. Suddenly I am a powerful producer and the world is laid out at my feet and I can’t touch it,’” Cole recounted. “But he did touch it.” 

Cole wrote that Whedon “accepted the duality” of getting consistent affairs and closing married to a spouse he hid the ones affairs from as a part of his existence. 

“Later, after he confessed everything, he told me, ‘I let myself love you. I stopped worrying about the contradiction. As a guilty man I knew the only way to hide was to act as though I were righteous. And as a husband, I wanted to be with you like we had been. I lived two lives,’” she wrote. 

Joss Whedon's Ex-Wife Warns He's A Hypocrite 'Preaching Feminist Ideals'

Cole wrote that after Whedon left her, he chalked up his conduct to the over-sexualized, patriarchal tradition that males are it seems that inevitably sure to get stuck up in.

“When he walked out of our marriage, and was trying to make ‘things seem less bewildering’ to help me understand how he could have lied to me for so long,” Cole wrote. “He said, ‘In many ways I was the HEIGHT of normal, in this culture. We’re taught to be providers and companions and at the same time, to conquer and acquire ― specifically sexually ― and I was pulling off both!’” 

She added that Whedon’s movements made her continuously second-guess herself after years of being lied to. Cole, who says that she used to be not too long ago identified with Complex PTSD, wrote that when Whedon left her, he admitted to “poisoning”  her “subtly, over years” by means of “chipping away” at her. 

“Despite understanding, on some level, that what he was doing was wrong, he never conceded the hypocrisy of being out in the world preaching feminist ideals, while at the same time, taking away my right to make choices for my life and my body based on the truth,” she wrote. “He deceived me for 15 years, so he could have everything he wanted. I believed, everyone believed, that he was one of the good guys, committed to fighting for women’s rights, committed to our marriage, and to the women he worked with. But I now see how he used his relationship with me as a shield, both during and after our marriage, so no one would question his relationships with other women or scrutinize his writing as anything other than feminist.”

Fans, writers and media critics tweeted their robust reactions to Cole’s essay over the weekend. Many expressed empathy for Cole ― and an unlucky loss of wonder self-proclaimed, public feminist best friend could be the rest however one in his non-public existence:

A spokesperson for Whedon supplied a commentary to The Wrap in accordance with Cole’s essay: “While this account includes inaccuracies and misrepresentations which can be harmful to their family, Joss is not commenting, out of concern for his children and out of respect for his ex-wife.”

Head over to The Wrap to learn Cole’s complete essay. 

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